If you allow them to be, they can be your greatest lesson and your wisest teacher.
The wisdom and lessons aren't given to you from them, they are reflected back to you through them.
No other human being will complete you. If you feel complete with a partner it's because you have given yourself permission with that person to feel complete.
A soulmate is a person who you connect with both deeply and superficially. Your souls usually have similar paths and your life purpose usually interlinks or compliments each other's. Your soulmate brings out the best in you because your connection was made at your best level - soul.
A deep level of connection that is often mistaken for soul mate is connecting with someone via your wounds (twin flames). These relationships are often intense and deep, each person at first feeding the other exactly what they need. After a little while this relationship destroys itself because it was based on feeding a wound rather than healing a wound. The soul knows the difference but it's hard for your body to separate the two, especially when it's pain is temporarily soothed.
There is a belief that soulmates are rare, that we only have one or a few chances to meet one, this is not true. There are lots of people who can fit the soulmate profile for us and be potential soulmates, but what turns a potential into a reality?
You find a soulmate by being open to the possibility. By open, I mean letting your guard down and letting healthy boundaries up. Boundaries shouldn't have to be put up like a defence. Boundaries are natural intuitive lines that your emotional body uses to distinguish between what you are or should be responsible for within yourself, compared to what you aren't or shouldn't be responsible for in another person.
It's not meeting a 'soulmate' that determines if you will spend your life with your soulmate. It's two people who have soulmate potential allowing themselves to open, to be truly seen and to see. To be seen with all your imperfections and flaws, to completely see another with all their imperfections and flaws and still be able to love yourself and them from this space.
Your soulmate will love your soul. They will love you for being completely yourself. They can love you this deep down because they love themselves for being themselves that deep down.
Stop looking for a soulmate and instead become the soulmate.
Truly love yourself, truly accept yourself, truly be yourself, to do this you drop the need to be perfect. You were born imperfect because you were born into an individual body that separates you from what you truly are.
Accepting yourself as you are isn't about never needing to change behaviours, mind sets and beliefs. It's about being able to love and be loved in a state imperfection and choosing to grow from that honest space. You don't have to be sure within yourself of sure of yourself. You don't need to know your soul purpose or know what you want in life. You don't have to have shit all figured out! Just be yourself. Drop the crap, drop the stories, drop anything you can drop in this moment and love yourself as you go and grow!!!
There is no right or wrong time to meet a soulmate, but your soul can't present itself as available to receive a soulmate, until you're ready to connect with another human being on a soul level and you won't lose yourself within them.
In this moment connect with yourself at your most central point. The point where body, soul and heart connect. (Centre of chest) Dream from here, take action from here, listen from here and LIVE and LOVE from here. You are perfectly imperfect.
If you are ready - open yourself. If you have lax or unclear boundaries then begin unknotting your blocks to allow these healthy lines back into position.
When you are ready, reveal your deepest, rawest, most truthful and authentic core.
Open and bare your soul and allow your light to shine. Shine without expectation or want of something in return. Shine simply because you recognise the truth in it.
When you are lit up, or even when a glimmer of light is beginning to flicker, your soulmate (who is also lit up) will recognise their own light within you and know they are home!
I see you. I see you and I have found you because I have finally found myself. Strength, courage, truth and belief