The perpetrator was thought and so is your liberator.
You're designed to be your happiest, most content and blissful self. You know this to be true because these emotional states feel amazing!
Struggle is a state of being. It's the feeling state that your body uses, to communicate to you that your current thoughts are making things harder not easier.
The person or circumstance may or may not be within your control to change, which means true happiness can't be found by changing people or circumstances.
It's your perspective that offers you the option of instant bliss, and its from this state that clarity and resolution can come naturally.
Don't focus on how bad struggle feels. Try instead to ask yourself why your perspective causes or encourages the feeling state of struggle.
When something feels like hard work it's because it is. Change the thought and you will change the feeling.
It's IMPOSSIBLE to think something horrible and feel something nice, so if you wanna feel good, think something good.
Bliss is there, but you have to choose it, one thought at a time.