Extreme emotional peaks are the ideal catalyst for profound transformational change. 
The worst things in life having around 10x the learning potential and ability to transform than the best things.

Why are the worst things more powerful than the best things? Because we are comfortable with 'best'. 
The 'worst' is the road less travelled. It's littered in golden coins of realisation, but it means letting go of something, looking at your flaws, accepting your weaknesses, sitting in your fears. 

It's a state in which we are imperfect and out of control.....
...but out of control is where the magic happens!!!!

Out of control awakens us from our dormant comfort zone. We are alive, wide awake and on high alert. Can you imagine a more ideal state to create transformation from? 

If we learnt to love the bad days as much as the good...
If we learnt to love each other on bad days, whilst in bad moods.....
If we didn't presume that someone broken needed fixed......
If we shared our bad times as much as our good times so it became ok to be at our worst.....

Wear your pain proudly. This is different to dwelling on something, moaning about something, become the victim of something. It's accepting something. Accepting that you're built to experience the bad and the good. 
Humanity has a sickness - we're addicted to good.

Allow bad times, be comfortably uncomfortable, find the beauty in your beast and learn a lesson that 'good' could never teach. 

Laura

Brute honesty
Brute honesty is when people who haven't fully integrated compassion try to deliver the truth...and by truth I mean their personal judgment that they don't realise is different from the truth. They don't select an appropriate time or place, they don't say it with tact and what comes out of their mouth is a judgemental, thoughtless way of delivering what is usually a negative exaggeration of the truth. 

Giving it
Never, shut your pie hole ;)
​Brute honesty is always more brutal than honest. It's cruel and it wounds the other person long after you have delivered it. Don't  convince yourself for one second longer that you are doing the other person a favour. 

Receiving it
Don't accept it. When someone says 'can I be brutally honest?' say 'no thank you, I prefer compassionate honesty'. 
A friend who doesn't know how to deliver something with sensitivity and compassion will hurt you not help you. You don't have to take it. 


Compassionate honesty
Compassionate honesty is honesty delivered with sensitivity and compassion. It considers the current emotional state of the other person, it let's the other person know that you have their best interest at heart and it allows you to deliver a message that most people will stay open to hearing. 

Giving it
Give compassionate honesty when someone asks for your honest opinion. 
Honesty without compassion equals brutality, but compassion without honesty equals enabling, so instead of sugar coating, find the right mix by delivering the truth in a compassionate and considerate way.  
The easiest way to do this is to imagine how it would feel to receive that information if you were them. 

Receiving it
Try to understand that the better you receive honesty the more people will stay truthful with you. If you lose your mind or instantly defend yourself, most people will start lying to you or saying the truth in a more brutal way. 
When someone is being compassionately  honest, thank them, be honest if it sucked to hear, and ask yourself if there is truth to what they are saying. 


Straight talking honesty
This form of honesty is reserved for two people who are at polar opposite ends of the scale to each other. The people who want the truth and the people who aren't truthful intentionally or unintentionally.
Compassionate honesty can be lost on someone who is in a state of victim, avoidance, denial, narcissism or ego and it can over complicate a message for someone who simply wants to receive the truth. 
Straight talking avoids the fillers so as little as possible can be misconstrued and personal growth can be achieved efficiently. 

Giving it
Giving it to a person who wants it is easy. You give them the information, they receive it, acknowledge it and are grateful for it. 
For the other type of person you have to understand that you can only give the truth, you have no control over their ability to process it, so drop the expectation of any form of resolution and focus on reflecting honesty. 
It's best to give it simply, kindly and concisely from a neutral, non judgmental state. Be prepared for a reaction that focuses on your delivery rather than the information you tried to deliver or another form of defensive response. 
Don't get caught up in justifying yourself, remember you are doing this to place a healthy boundary up to state that you won't play the game and won't tolerate it. 

Receiving it
If someone says something and you react to it over-emotionally or jump into defence then it would be good to take a moment to check yourself. Consider the following before receiving:
Do I trust this persons judgment?
Does this person genuinely want good things for me?
If the answer is yes to both then it might be a good time (despite lots of high emotions) to remember that often people we know can see things that we can't!! 

Instead of focusing on how you feel about what theyve said, focus on what they have said that has value.

How you deliver honest says a lot about how willing you are to see and understand others.
How you receive honesty says a lot about how willing you are to see and understand yourself.

Honesty and authenticity
​Laura

​The answer isn't away from you,
It isn't outside of you. 

You can change your job, people, circumstances, goals or country (and it may even work for a while), but wherever you go there you will be. 
You can distract yourself by staying busy. Stay late at work, pick up your phone and lose a few hours looking at social media that you won't remember tomorrow. Wherever you go, there you will be. 
If aren't happy with what you have now, you won't be happy with more.

The answer is on the inside. 

Close your eyes and let everything that you're not disappear from view. 

Listen to everything at once and nothing in particular. 

Let all thoughts and feelings be there, but don't be any of them. 

Let your body relax in the stillness of nothing and everythingness. 

It's not that nothing matters anymore, it's just that nothing that doesn't matter matters anymore. 

You are you. 
Don't hide behind lies, distractions, excuses, behaviours, faults, unhealthy relationships,
the mistakes you've made, the mistakes you fear you will make, the things you didn't get and the things you want to get. 

Underneath what you present to the world on the outside about yourself.......
....Underneath what your mind believes about you so your thoughts and feelings feedback to you about yourself.....
....Underneath it all is the truth...
.....Your truth.....
There are no more words for what you will find. You know the way now, the rest must be done by you. 

Meditate and surrender
Laura

1) Consider wisely who you hear and who you surround yourself with. Wisdom is only as wise as the person who gives it. Although it's true that everyone in their own way has wisdom to give, the wisdom that will help you the most comes from the person who is already doing or living it. 

2) No matter how wise you believe a person to be, they can never be inside your body and experience what it's like to be you. You are the person who tastes your life, take the spices but only add what you need; don't be afraid to know/say if something doesn't feel right to you. 

3) Pay attention to the feedback you get from others. If you keep hearing similar things from people (like 'you're negative', 'you're so sensitive', 'you're hard to read') then it's wise to consider that they may be able to see something you can't. 

4) Be open to hearing hard truths in a state of empowerment not disempowerment. Instead of shaming yourself, trying to avoid or defend yourself when someone says something that deep down you know is unfortunately true, thank others for the valuable advice. If you know how to change it then do, if you don't then find out how.

5) Every moment is an opportunity to hear and listen to the wisdom within you and all around you.  Listen to your gut feelings and intuition if it always seems to be right. Question your boundaries and belief system if you struggle to trust yourself or know that listening to yourself is a bad idea. 


Life's not a competition. It's about accepting where you are right now and respecting yourself enough to move forward.

Unconditional love, support and belief in you.
​Laura

The hardest times in your life, when everything feels at its worst, these are the greatest moments of your life!! 
These are the moments when you have made an emotional/vibrational shift but your mind and/or physical reality currently reflects the old vibration. 
It's just you in the awareness of the two very opposing sides within yourself. 

It's like when you see people who are oblivious to their behaviours. They don't struggle because they only see and resonate with one perspective!!

Struggle can begin when you side with a new, wiser perspective but your belief system contains an apposing belief or core belief. The belief will need to be changed for you to truly integrate your new perspective. 

Struggle can also take place when you are focused on witnessing the old way of thinking dissolving as apposed to the new ways of thinking forming. 
Some of the common symptoms of this are, anxiety, anger, lethargy, negative thinking, intense highs and lows, feeling out of control, OCD, feeling overwhelmed, depressed or hopeless.
All of the above are just physical signs from your body that you have noticed things that aren't a good vibrational match for you, and you either need a fresh perspective or to implement different responses or actions.

Anything negative is just resistance to the positive. To be aware of something negative means you must also be in awareness of its opposite. This means you are as close as you can get to your new vibration. 

YOU get to choose if this is the hardest time in your life with the most struggle or if it's the
most insightful and transformative period of your life to date.
For you to expand and grow as a person and for your life to transform into something more in alignment with your absolute best life, you have to grow out of the old and into the new.
If you want something different, you have to do something different. 
Change is amazing!! Let it be a process of growth and expansion. A time where you learn deeply about yourself rather than a time that beats you into submission and force yourself to retreat back. 

Nothing is impossible. You don't have to always get it right but to get it right you have to be on your own team. 

Breaking point is the point where the resistance to being something better snaps and your potential opens. 
Keep going. Nobody ever achieved anything in the comfort zone. That zone is the peaceful resting point between expansion. 

You're not struggling, you're growing! 
Go ahead and break! Break through!!! 

Love, motivation and inspiration
Laura

Your soulmate is the person that you completely lose yourself in whilst never losing self.  Your soulmate is your deepest mirrored reflection in physical form. 
If you allow them to be, they can be your greatest lesson and your wisest teacher. 
The wisdom and lessons aren't given to you from them, they are reflected back to you through them. 

No other human being will complete you. If you feel complete with a partner it's because you have given yourself permission with that person to feel complete. 

A soulmate is a person who you connect with both deeply and superficially.  Your souls usually have similar paths and your life purpose usually interlinks or compliments each other's. Your soulmate brings out the best in you because your connection was made at your best level - soul. 

A deep level of connection that is often mistaken for soul mate is connecting with someone via your wounds (twin flames). These relationships are often intense and deep, each person at first feeding the other exactly what they need. After a little while this relationship destroys itself because it was based on feeding a wound rather than healing a wound. The soul knows the difference but it's hard for your body to separate the two, especially when it's pain is temporarily soothed. 

There is a belief that soulmates are rare, that we only have one or a few chances to meet one, this is not true. There are lots of people who can fit the soulmate profile for us and be potential soulmates, but what turns a potential into a reality?
You find a soulmate by being open to the possibility. By open, I mean letting your guard down and letting healthy boundaries up. Boundaries shouldn't have to be put up like a defence. Boundaries are natural intuitive lines that your emotional body uses to distinguish between what you are or should be responsible for within yourself, compared to what you aren't or shouldn't be responsible for in another person. 

It's not meeting a 'soulmate' that determines if you will spend your life with your soulmate.  It's two people who have soulmate potential allowing themselves to open, to be truly seen and to see. To be seen with all your imperfections and flaws, to completely see another with all their imperfections and flaws and still be able to love yourself and them from this space. 

Your soulmate will love your soul. They will love you for being completely yourself. They can love you this deep down because they love themselves for being themselves that deep down. 
Stop looking for a soulmate and instead become the soulmate. 
Truly love yourself, truly accept yourself, truly be yourself, to do this you drop the need to be perfect. You were born imperfect because you were born into an individual body that separates you from what you truly are. 
Accepting yourself as you are isn't about never needing to change behaviours, mind sets and beliefs. It's about being able to love and be loved in a state imperfection and choosing to grow from that honest space.  You don't have to be sure within yourself of sure of yourself. You don't need to know your soul purpose or know what you want in life. You don't have to have shit all figured out!  Just be yourself. Drop the crap, drop the stories, drop anything you can drop in this moment and love yourself as you go and grow!!!

There is no right or wrong time to meet a soulmate, but your soul can't present itself as available to receive a soulmate, until you're ready to connect with another human being on a soul level and you won't lose yourself within them. 

In this moment connect with yourself at your most central point. The point where body, soul and heart connect. (Centre of chest)  Dream from here, take action from here, listen from here and LIVE and LOVE from here.  You are perfectly imperfect. 

If you are ready - open yourself.  If you have lax or unclear boundaries then begin unknotting your blocks to allow these healthy lines back into position. 
When you are ready, reveal your deepest, rawest, most truthful and authentic core. 
Open and bare your soul and allow your light to shine. Shine without expectation or want of something in return. Shine simply because you recognise the truth in it. 
When you are lit up, or even when a glimmer of light is beginning to flicker, your soulmate (who is also lit up) will recognise their own light within you and know they are home! 

I see you. I see you and I have found you because I have finally found myself.  Strength, courage, truth and belief 

​Laura  

The thing in your life you're currently struggling with, it's not real. It's real to YOU, but the struggle itself doesn't actually exist. 
The perpetrator was thought and so is your liberator. 
You're designed to be your happiest, most content and blissful self. You know this to be true because these emotional states feel amazing!
Struggle is a state of being. It's the feeling state that your body uses, to communicate to you that your current thoughts are making things harder not easier. 

The person or circumstance may or may not be within your control to change, which means true happiness can't be found by changing people or circumstances. 
It's your perspective that offers you the option of instant bliss, and its from this state that clarity and resolution can come naturally.
Don't focus on how bad struggle feels. Try instead to ask yourself why your perspective causes or encourages the feeling state of struggle. 
When something feels like hard work it's because it is. Change the thought and you will change the feeling. 
It's IMPOSSIBLE to think something horrible and feel something nice, so if you wanna feel good, think something good.
 
Bliss is there, but you have to choose it, one thought at a time. 
Laura 

Having Sciatica for the last few months has given me a lot of time to contemplate. 
I've been mainly lay down and there's only so much meditating, watching movies and rolling around in pain you can do!!!
It's allowed me to realise the importance of a healthy physical body and also the importance of living your absolute highest life!!
If this had never happened then I doubt I would have slowed down for long enough to ask myself if the life I am living is my absolute highest vibration? What do i want more of in my life? What do I love in my life? What is in my life that no longer feels like my highest vibration?

After looking within myself I experienced many life changing realisations, revelations and excitement ultimately resulting in a decision to move to Italy in June!!!
No idea why, no idea how but I'm going!! I'm going because all I have is this moment and this moment requires more sunshine, fresh olives and an outdoor pizza oven!!! 
I am eternally grateful to all my clients who have made the successful business that I have today!! Thank you for sharing your life with me, thank you for all the giggles, all the silliness, all the emotion and all the loyalty!!!! You have a permanent place in my heart! 

This last 5 years I have really begun to understand the meaning of true and unwavering happiness! Now I'm going to learn about excitement!! The less predictable, less secure, less stable and less solid cousin of happiness!!! 

Happiness is a feeling that allows you to be content with any situation and experience in your life.
Excitement is a feeling that allows you to CREATE any situations and experience in your life!

Your soul purpose is calling you! Your dream life awaits you!
May you look around you and see nothing but endless possibilities!!
Here's to a bright and fluid, flowing future! 
Buonanotte 
Laura